Jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love.
I am not going to lie i get jealous all the time.
longing for another persons attributes/ appearance/ skills/ talents/ personality... and the list goes on.
But jealousy is conveyed as a negative feeling. But really when you think about it it really isn't given the next few facts.
1. Humans are selfish, it is instinct to want the best for ourselves. A friend once told me the safest place to sit in a car is behind the driver, because if the driver is about to collide into something, it is human reflect to protect themselves and move out the the past of the object, possibly putting the person in the passenger seat in danger- even if they don't mean to. So we want the best for ourselves, however love for a person can override this, however you cannot ignore human instinct.
2. Social pressures of society are constantly pressuring us to be "perfect" or to be the "best" which is realistically unachievable- but we all strive for this common goal.
3. Everyone is different with different attributes and talents, we live in a world where someone will always be "better than you" and you can only strive to be your best.
So given those 3 conditions how can an individual NOT become jealous?
When we all strive for perfection we don't have- as we pick out faults within ourselves, observing those who do not obtain those faults as we long to fix our faults- to be better, as we are blinded and dont see other peoples faults. So in our mind they are closer to perfect than we are, when realistically they are not.
When we have these aspirations to be another- this isnt jealousy- but admiration.
Admiration: Wonder mingled with approbation or delight; an emotion excited by a person or thing possessed of wonderful or high excellence
As we admire the illusion that they are closer to perfection than ourselves.
