"Lauren , you need to love yourself more"Got me thinking..... do I really neglect myself that much?
I recently did a Personality test and it defined me as a 'Giver' basically a super nice person HAHAHA no joke.
Where you put basically everyone elses happiness above your own. Why do we do this?
Simple. Guilt.
I shall demonstrate in the below example
Say you're picking a movie to watch, say you want to watch a Comedy and they want to watch and action film.
Knowing they wont enjoy the comedy as much , I would insist going tot he action film. While I wont enjoy the movie as much I'll have peace of mind that they are enjoying it . Otherwise if we went to the comedy I'd always feel I'd have to look over and worry they were having a bad time and after the movie when they say it was good I would feel they are just saying that, then I'd begin to over think and all hell breaks loose.
So I guess Action film it is :)
In the beginning this is fine , because they really appreciate it , because they say thankyou maybe buys you an icecream, says you can pick the movie next time .
But what happens like everything thing else we continue , again and again and again. Until we're taken for-granted , but we really have no one to blame but ourselves.
Now the above example is very simplistic and this theory can be applied to Many other situations.
I shall name it the "Law of diminishing gratitude"
When we get all sad and hurt we just do nothing , we say nothing . We spiral .
Recently I've really tried to change this about myself , be independent opinionated don't let people step all over me. Ive come to realise though once I begin to care about someone , GG.
Its not all bad :) Im glad though that seeing others happy brings so much joy to myself :) its a really rewarding way to live and see the world . Prevents self absorption.
So if you know a 'Giver' maybe just check up on them once in a while , maybe for once say you dont mind any movie and let them pick?
Or if they make you simple always remember a symbol of thanks <3 font="" nbsp="">
