The Break up? more like down

breakups.


They suck. Everyone can agree on that regardless if you are the 'dumper' or the 'dumpee' or even an external bystander.


What I can not understand is after this event why can't two people be friends ?
Maybe I'm just naïve , in my perfect idealistic point of view I would like to think the only reason why you wouldn't be able to be friends is if your new partner became jealous. Or it was a terrible breakup with lot of lying and cheating.


I've personally experienced two breakups, I would say the first was marginally worse than the second.
But I couldn't say I'm friends with either of them, I feel so shut out from their lives. Like they don't want to remember me at all. When all I want to do is give them girl advice and what not to stuff up on .


I understand I'm not a special person in your life anymore, but I feel like they are so hostile towards me. Maybe I don't understand because I Have never had experience being the "Dumpee". Maybe I just don't understand , because I cannot say I know how you feel. Or maybe they haven't found a significant other yet and when they do all this awkwardness will be removed? (I can hope).


I feel like recently I'm surrounded by breakups , but I guess its that time of yr, new starts , dumping old problems and baggage.


While most people I know are not friends with their ex's a sparse few are, and Im so jealous. I want someone to say to me "Lauren when do you ____ you're the shittiest girlfriend don't do that this time". Someone who knows all my flaws. In breakups you loose lots of friendships because this awkwardness creates spaces between you and 'their' friends , and after a while everything becomes just too difficult.


Maybe this topic is just too complicated for me to comprehend, maybe I'm expecting to much.


The reality I'm looking at now is just too sad ..... I don't to believe this is the way it always has to be.